During our first year or so, I tried very hard not to change anything. After all we had experianced one big horrable change in the loss of Lisa. I suppose I figured that Abby & Matt did not need any more change in their life just now. So I did my best to make sure that I did things just like Lisa would have. I would find myself asking the kids, where did mom buy this or that. I tried to keep the house just like Lisa would have. At one point we needed some new kitchen towels so I drove all over town trying to find these stupid towels. Finally, I found them at Bed Bath & beyond. Was it worth it. Yes. To me it was and thats all that counts.
The down side was that I was putting a lot of unnessasary stress on myslef as a result. Latley I have been comfortable with letting some small changes take palce. I only heard "thats not how mom did it" a few times. I think the kids know that I am doing my level best and that these small changes are just something that ,make it a tiny bit eaiser on dad. I am sure that there are some things that I will never allow to change. However, I think some small changes are fine. After all, I think Mayfield milk tastes better than the Publix brand anyhow.
- Chris Anderson
- Watkinsville, Georgia, United States
- We lost my beautiful wife of 20 years on 9/12/07. Lisa was my world she was my everything and now she is gone. We are learning to live without Lisa now. I say we because I am not alone. My children are stuck in this mess with me. These are my notes, my vent, my way of letting you all know that we are doing well (some days). This is for myself, my friends and my family that want to know how we are doing and what we are up to. Along the way I hope this might also help someone else who has been dealt a similar hand.