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Watkinsville, Georgia, United States
We lost my beautiful wife of 20 years on 9/12/07. Lisa was my world she was my everything and now she is gone. We are learning to live without Lisa now. I say we because I am not alone. My children are stuck in this mess with me. These are my notes, my vent, my way of letting you all know that we are doing well (some days). This is for myself, my friends and my family that want to know how we are doing and what we are up to. Along the way I hope this might also help someone else who has been dealt a similar hand.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Cape For Sale

I have always been a problem solver.  Heck, that’s in large part what I do for a living every day.  People come to me with problems and I solve them.  This used to drive Lisa up the wall.  Some days, she just wanted to vent and have me listen.  Instead of just listen I would jump in and tell her how to fix the problem.  It’s what I do…

When our world imploded and fell apart, someone had to circle the wagons and get us through it all.  It took me a while to get my act together.  Thank God the school lined up meals for us that first month or so... that’s about how long it took me just to figure out that I was not dying also.  I wound up putting on my Super Dad cape and stepped up to the plate.  I got organized, figured it all out and got it all done along with a lot of help from some very wonderful friends.  I find myself at a new crossroad however.

I am finding that I can’t always be Super Dad.   I am learning that I need to step back some and let the kids figure some things out on their own.  It’s hard to give up control when you’re a control freak though.  I don’t know how some parents do it.  I don’t know how they just seem to be able to step back and let the little birds fly from the nest.  Yeah, I’m a controlling neat freak of a parent but a lot of it is love too.  I love them and don’t want to see them struggle.  What parent that isn’t a thug themselves would want to see their kids struggle.  However, I’m smart enough to know that they do need to struggle at times to some degree.  It’s healthy for them and it presents learning lessons that they can carry with them the rest of their life.

So yeah, it’s time for me to step back just a little bit and let them do some of the heavy lifting. 

Easier said than done…

Oh and by the way, my fricking drawers didn’t fit!!!  That’s right, all 25 drawers were 3/16 too narrow.  Before I could install them into the boxes I had to take all five boxes apart and cut them down by 3/16 of an inch.  That took the entire afternoon and into the evening on Sunday.  I don’t even want to talk about it…

1 comment:

  1. Geez, maybe you will need my help with that dresser. Measure twice, cut once, right?